Remembering Brother Doug

dougleekoreaMy oldest brother, on the right in this picture, died in his sleep on Friday, April 29, 2016. He was 84. It was a peaceful passing. (My brother Lee is on the left in the photo.) After escaping our violent birth-family as a teenager, Doug was free to create a good life for himself, and he certainly made the best of that opportunity. Ironically, though, along with his three brothers—me included—his initial ticket to a “safer” and happier existence turned out to be a career in the military.

After his service in the army, Doug made a happy marriage that lasted for well over 50 years. His four children, two girls, two boys, turned out well. Doug was a happy man and had a great sense of humor. He was healthy right up to the end. And he was a lucky man, too, in other ways—lucky to be loved by his extended family and a wide range of friends, many of whom dated from his Korean War days in the 1950’s.

It’s not surprising that in many ways, with the exception of marriage, Brother Doug was a roll-model for me. He still is. Doug left this life the way I’d like to go—in bed, asleep, oblivious. A few days after I got the news of Doug’s death, this thought popped into my head: Except for the dreams we have nightly, I believe that deep and contented sleep is the ideal practice for a good death.

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4 Responses to Remembering Brother Doug

  1. Regina Pilardi. says:

    Sincere condolences, Jim. I trust that good memories of Doug will provide some comfort.

  2. Jim says:

    Thank so much for the kind words, Regina. I hope you trip east has been lots of fun . . .

  3. Alvera Winkler says:

    What a nice tribute to your brother. I wonder where you and your brothers drew your strength and inspiration. My condolences.

  4. Jim says:

    Nice to hear from you, Alvera, and thank you for the kind words. Hello to Rich, and let’s try to at least do lunch one of these days . . .

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